Posts Tagged ‘social media

I think that the minimum age to sign up should be 18. I also think that Facebook’s original intent to be for college students and alumni was probably the best. It was a very good networking tool prior to the emergence of Linkedin. Facebook lost something when they expanded to allow the general public.

You have to be far more careful with what you post and have stricter privacy settings now. I have younger cousins under 18 on Facebook and they post some items that are TMI. They don’t know what the risks are and how to set the privacy setting and their parents don’t know enough to help them.

As long as your kids are talking to you, it can be worked out, whatever the situation. We talk about controversial subjects in my home also. I don’t think that it is me being naive about what my children are doing if one of my daighter’s friends gets pregnant and we use the situation as a teaching tool.

We have had to delete some posts on their Facebook account but for the most part, my kids know what is appropriate and what is not. They are also friends with their grandparents and people from our church. It is my job as a parent to know what my kids are doing and to make sure as they grow up that they know the difference between right and wrong. I don’t know that there is an “age” that you can set on Facebook.

I believe that it depends on each kid individually and that is also part of my job as a parent. They do not have separate pages. Our computer is in the living room. We have to grow with our children and be able to talk with them about what is relevant in their society to bettter help prepare them for the future. This is the time and we are the teachers in helping them learn to interact with their peers.

Parents who think they know their childs passwords don’t realize there child has another Facebook for just them and there friends not the one Mommy and Daddy know about. I have stumbled upon them a few times when searching out friends. and Facebook dosent know that the child has signed up using fake info such as age and dates.

Kids are not stupid and know how to minapulate the system very well. Also how many parents know about so many kids in there using false info and age and dates so many accepting peope they do not know and some stuff going on that parents would be shocked at.. its not just FACEBOOK!

I speak as an 18 year old who grew up with a healthy balance of Facebook, the mall, and other virtual and real life social situations. Sheltering children from the real world will never give them the experience they need to become well rounded adults. In fact, I’ve come to believe that sheltering children and not allowing them the RIGHT to make mistakes and learn from them is the quickest way to leave a child psychologically scarred for life. As soon as the child experiences something out of the ordinary, the effects can be drastic.

The best thing you can do is teach your children starting at an early age about the Internet and everything revolving around it. Restricting your children and not allowing them to learn from mistakes is simply wrong.And before anyone tries to invalidate my argument by saying that I’m only 18 and I couldn’t possibly understand because I don’t have children of my own, let me just say that I am the middle of 5 children, with two older brothers and two younger twin brothers. I have seen one parenting style utilized on my older brothers, and a very different parenting style utilized on my younger brothers.

I happened to be at the perfect age to adequately experience both. In seeing my older brothers graduate from high school and then from college, I have come to believe that demanding but nonrestrictive parenting breeds successful children. Never once did my father not allow my older brothers to do something simply because he didn’t want them to get into trouble. He ALWAYS allowed them to experience a plethora of different things, and several times they got themselves into trouble. But they learned from those mistakes.

After my parents’ divorce, my younger brothers and I lived with my mother, who, through a long string of boyfriends and husbands, wasn’t completely involved in our parenting. She was, however, intensely involved with things like the Internet and ensuring we didn’t go certain places or do certain things on the Internet. She wasn’t demanding about our schoolwork, but she was demanding about the people we made friends with and what we were allowed to do.

So, to bring an end to my long narrative, let me say this. My older brothers both graduated high school and college with honors, and are both quite successful, one as a lawyer and the other as a history professor. My younger brothers? Although they’re incredibly intelligent, they finished their freshman year of high school with straight C’s. I attribute this mostly to my mother’s parenting style, and only somewhat to the divorce.